INTRODUCTION: “In Loco Parentis” = in place of parents
I. Spiritual things (heart matters)
A. Are we a beacon of a Biblical worldview – with an emphasis on the spiritual well-being of our students? Viewing life and the world from God’s point of view.
- Are our students saved? What is your active plan to make sure they obtain and maintain a relationship with the creator.
- The question is not IF our students will have a relationship with God. The question is what KIND of relationship will they have with him?
- Our students can be His enemy or His friend. Our students can be
His acquaintance or His close companion.
- How important is it to you that your students are spiritually equipped? This is known as discipling.
- How does your school define discipling and how do you plan to accomplish it?
- We must combat worldly viewpoint that is fed constantly.
- How have you (purposefully) set out to do it? Comprehensive (possibly revolving) plan: Essence of God, basic Bible doctrines, purity/abstinence issues
- In what ways has God equipped your school to be suited to this task? One-on-one conversations ( never assume any child is born again)
Devotions – with a plan of study
Games (Bible drills, crossword puzzles, book reports that analyze viewpoint, debates)
B. In what ways can the school be better equipped to develop effective/ meaningful spiritual leaders? Make a plan and execute it.
C. Remember that spiritual matters are at the heart of all discipline challenges.
Give clear Biblical guidelines for students:
Eph_6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Col_3:20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
1Sam._15:23 For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is
as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from being king.
Iniquity = immoral or grossly unfair behavior.
The definition of iniquity as “doing our own will” is confirmed in Isaiah 53:6: “All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.”
Idolatry: 1 : the worship of a physical object as god
2 : immoderate attachment or devotion to something (my own will)
When we disregard rules, we are disobeying God. Heb. 13:17
II. Recognize three traits common to most of our students:
- They struggle with self-worth with feelings of inferiority-80% struggle with issues regarding their personal appearance
- They question their own intelligence –feeling unintelligent
- They may have a wrong concept about money-the ides that the wealthy family is more important than the poor one. (money is the magic supplier of all needs)
III. Learn their ‘love language’ (how do they give and receive love) and Spiritual Gifts (Gary Chapman)
- words of affirmation
- acts of service
- receiving gifts
- quality time
- physical touch
IV. As a school:
A. Encourage an open-door
Phone calls and notes in the Com Books are welcome. Let’s talk!
Write positive, encouraging things – not just facts and/or negative things.
Share staff phone numbers, but do not be on call 24 hrs. a day (Often it is better to talk than try to communicate in writing.)
When problems arise, be the first to call.
B. Be careful to practice consistency in application of all rules and policies. All rules apply equally to all students. Unenforced rules are only words on paper. They are meaningless.
C. Deal with discipline matters (attitudes) early-before they grow into big problems. Discipline issues are spiritual issues.
D. Encourage staff to make a study of each student. Learn their love language, what their spiritual gift is, what motivates them and encourages self-worth?
E. School should communicate at least once a month – defining and ‘selling’ various aspects of the SOT system and how each helps build character into the lives of our students. (Sell the system!) Consider an e-mail bulletin.
F. Systematically track academic progress of each student on a tri-weekly basis. Help parents understand that you want them to get their money’s worth in tuition.
Track by L.C., child and three-week period. (If the child is not progressing, find out WHY not? What can be done to address this?
G. If you are a church school, have an “Academy Sunday” to regularly show-case students and their achievements.
Consistently work to build the relationship between school and home.
Isa. 60:1 Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the LORD is risen upon thee.
Matt. 5:16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
II Cor. 4:6 For God, who commanded the light to shine out of darkness, hath shined in our hearts, to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.